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honeyme's blog post - The power of photography.

Thursday, July 30, 2015, 10:33:03 PM

I didn't plan 3 posts in 3 days.. And at some point I'll run out of conversations in my head, but for tonight I've still got things to say.

Less definitely is more, when it's done well that is. I'm currently making no secret of the fact that 2 men posting to NN at the moment are driving me crazy.. Nor am I the only woman getting wet knickers over them judging by the regularity with which they occupy the top spots on the home page. And barely a hint of a penis in any of their photos. Something in their pictures exudes sex appeal and a hint of 'promise' without giving much away at all. And it turns me on massively. I just want more and more.

As I continue experimenting with my own photos I've concluded I feel sexier in the ones that show less rather than the ones Im showing more in, to the extent I've actually deleted some of the more hardcore shots as they no longer feel right. Sex appeal is a state of mind, not just endless dick and pussy shots.

At the other end of the equation though, how much of our attraction to each other is based on looks and how much is deeper than that? Speaking for myself, I'll put my hands up to being shallow. As part of this year of self exploration I mentioned before, there have been various places I've chatted to men without seeing their faces. I understand the anonymity needed (desired?) to play on the Internet, but I usually reach a point I have to put a face to a mental picture Im building up fairly quickly, it's as if my brain is only willing to invest so much before it wants to know it's on the right path. Shallow I agree.

I've said before that I find it hard to show every side of me.. I've one dating profile (being removed as soon as I finish typing this) left online and before I removed it I wanted to conduct an experiment. I've been 100% honest on my profile there in terms of my personality, and I've a selection of attractive enough facial photos with a couple of full body, fully clothed shots. And I've had a steady enough stream of mild interest over time. Tonight I added 2 shots from the same photo sessions I took last night. Tamer than the ones I posted here, but hotter than anything Id put up on my dating profile so far. And the message count went through the roof.
What Im fascinated by is why? Is it because it shows I'm sexier than pictures of me in jeans show? Does it give a hint of the fact I'm seriously fucking kinky that wasn't there before? Is it because it screams 'looking for sex'? I'm not sure..

My point is the right, or wrong, photo has the power to change everything.

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geekcouple	31-Jul-15 0:11:16 You knew that dress was a tacky disco tart look and it worked, take the positive result and bank it. My advice is to not consider any men on this site, we are all after the same thing no matter how we dress it up, men are liars and cheats, we pretend to be nice and do small talk but at the end of the day it was that dress picture that won me over. nice ass too by the way.

geekcouple	31-Jul-15 0:15:54 did that honest message burn the bridge a wee bit? or can we meet for lunch sometime? kindest regards, Neil..

Entropy20	31-Jul-15 4:12:24 I am guessing inthemoment and crunchyPB are the homepage guys .

newromantic	31-Jul-15 6:43:52 Your right it does , we cannot help but be taken in by what we see, your beauty is natural and easy to see, the sexual power you process is only seen by those who see you for more then just beauty of body, when you post sexy pics well everyone see's it but when you take just simple pics it takes a person who will connect with you to see your sexy side mmmm but that Sadi even in your simple pics your sexy xxx

cs06	31-Jul-15 20:57:18 I've met a couple of people from here, I've also met people from a 'sex site' (dirty boy), got along like a house on fire but, somehow, seeing them naked first, while it saves time, always feels a little 'ass backwards'. My most fulfilling relationship is a resuly of plain old internet dating :-)

meisterfinger2	31-Jul-15 22:54:31 I think it probably says quite a lot about what many people on online dating sites actually want. Or think they want. Unless you were on Guardian Soulmates? And of course confidence, including the confidence to dress like that, is attractive in itself. But it's one thing to attract someone's attention. Keeping it, and developing it, is another matter.

BuxomXhunter	2-Aug-15 12:42:27 men are visually stimulated animals, also most times our first impression of someone is what we see, you know the saying "first impression" that starts the ball rolling to some extent, but in my life I have met very very physically beautiful ppl (men and women) and when I started talking to them I found them very ugly and then in my head they looked physically ugly and I have met the same that looked average but had the most beautiful personality and my mind changed their appearance to be very beautiful, so over time the old saying "don't judge the book by it's cover" becomes very true, but we are human beings that do not all the time understand why we see or behave the way we do, ok we should but we are not machines and at times we just do and say things that we wonder why, but I will leave that as me and not anyone else

nosanity	23-Apr-18 10:30:00 They say that a picture is worth a thousand words. So a sexy picture will provide visual stimulation and indeed light a fire in the mind, if said picture contains a "come hither" look or any suggestion of saucy or kinky, it's like pouring petrol on the flames....

honeyme's blog post - The power of photography.

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