i think if you dig each other truly that stuff works its self out. no matter where you are.

American - totally anti organized religion, but believe in God.

1. Is a guy supposed to always pay for the woman on dates? I was raised that the man always pays.

2. How much is an engagement ring supposed to cost? We're told 3 months salary. My wife wears my grandmother's ring, which is way more special.

3. Economics in serious relation? he pays bills, 50/50 or procentual? All our money goes in to a joint account, it always has. I'm disabled so she makes much more than I & did even when I was working.

4. Housechores? split 50/50, each chose which, its a womans job? I stay at home, due to disability so I handle the majority of the chores & child care.

5. Marriage, how much should a wedding cost? Americans spend 10's of thousands of dollars on weddings. We were married at the courthouse for $35.

I don’t think ‘normal’ religion has anything to do with these questions. Most people ‘learn’ by the people around them.

My parents always put both incomes into a joint account - I do the same. In fact when I first met my wife and we moved in together (she was a student) I actually added her onto my bank account - why because I loved her.

As for engagement ring, I had her chose it. Heard too many bad stories; besides she wearing it not me. From memory it cost $700 which was a lot for us at that time we were 21, now 56.

When we told Mrs Ch’s parents the first comment was “needed think I’m going to pay for any wedding”. I told them I didn’t. Weird comment, the other son in-laws were despicable, one couldn’t keep it in his parents, one an alcoholic another a crook.

Wedding was probably cheaper than most. Went to a five star restaurant but only had 15 people. We were engaged for 13 years and when Mrs Ch’s father died we decided to get married even though everything was joint.

The small wedding created problems on both sides. Actually it came in vastly under budget and we ended up giving the guests bottles of champagne to take with them. Interesting thing about our wedding was the restaurant took the prices off the menu so instead of say two choices, we had a half dozen or so.

Probably the chores are more spilt but not completely. Mrs Ch mows the lawn (I gate that), I’m the weeded, planter. We both do the painting. Share the housework what ever it is, except Mrs Ch does the ironing (not as good as me, but I’m not saying anything to her) and we both do the cooking.

I don’t think we’ve ever argued about chores, money or such. Don’t get we wrong we do argue, every couple does, but not about much and I’m always wrong.

Oh, we are in New Zealand.🇳🇿.