We had a lot to do including meeting with and training a new pet sitter for a few upcoming vacations. all the while, The Wife was being very disagreeable (wanted to say being a bitch but perhaps that is too strong) she interrupted me constantly and just wanted to argue about everything. later we were discussing some home improvements where we are planning to rebuild our deck and she said she would haul loads of gravel to put under the deck I pointed out that doing so would leave her in great pain and she said so what. My response was that our sex life sucks and I did not want her to have another excuse to make it worse to which she had no reply in other words, she does not really care. This fits in with previous conversations so it was not a surprise.

Was Thursday so The Wife was at her office. The Ex came by to shower and we did have a quick fuck. It was pretty good and I slid in to her with ease because she was so wet. I have tried to interest The Wife in activity but get no response. Might be due to election stress - I think she is more stressed out than the candidates - or might just be her not wanting sex. Whatever....

We went out Friday evening to a trunk or treat where my kids were setup with their jeep which was fun - unfortunately, we had stopped at Taco Bell on the way there and I got sick so we went home early. After a few hours, I was feeling normal again thankfully. While watching TV I showed The Wife some lingerie that popped up on my FB feed and we talked about me getting it for her, but I pointed out that I had purchased quite a bit over the years and she never wears it for me, she even said she had it jut hanging in the closet to which I replied that it did no good just hanging up. When we went to bed, I was feeling hornier than usual so decided that based on the earlier conversation maybe there was a chance of sex. Well ... I was correct. I am not saying that she was active in starting things up but she was willing. we made out for a while and she was pulling on me while I started fingering her. I move up so she could suck me and I started fingering her more vigorously finally using 2 fingers and rubbing on her G spot area as she was getting wetter and wetter - I am pretty sure she was cumming but she did not say so - . After a bit I went to eat her and then I am sure she came. By this point, I knew that I needed to fuck her or I would cum from her oral and I prefer to cum in her pussy since she does not swallow. I moved around and fucked her but in the middle of it all she got a cramp in her leg. She managed top get the cramp to go away and I fucked her till we both came and then kept gong working on getting her a second orgasm but her leg cramped up again and we had to stop. All in all, a better than average fuck lasting a bit over an hour (I always set our tv timer in 30 minute increments when we go to bed so each time I have to reset it is another 30 minutes)

Now a bit more where I almost got kicked out of bed during the above time. In the middle of it all, the discussion about the bed (see previous blog post) came up and I pointed out again that we had a mattress without a 'hole' in the middle for almost 5 years and our sex life had not improved so I did not really expect the Purple mattress to fix our sex life, just my sleep. Realize that this and a further discussion about our lack of sex happened in the middle of everything and brought it to a halt as she got, I guess, angry / frustrated with me. I pointed out to her that I was just being realistic - that she made excuses for our lack of sex but none of them added up in that if she really wanted us to have sex there was nothing preventing it except her lack of showing willingness. Luckily we were able to get going again either because I kept her somewhat turned on or because she felt guilty - not sure which.

A few nights ago we purchased a new mattress (The Purple 3 FWIW). We have slept on first a motion free water bed which we both loved until it sprung a leak after which we got a 'regular' mattress which I hated but it did not matter since we were not sleeping together anyway. Finally got rid of that a few years ago and got a (used) sleep number bed which is not bad, but it sort of has a 'valley' in the middle since it is King Size and has 2 bladders. Anyway ... We are on the way home and The Wife says 'now when we make love we wont have the low spot in the middle so it will be easier' I am thinking to myself That is not the problem! I was so tempted to be an asshole, but that is not really in my nature. I am hoping that this will allow me to sleep better, but I have little expectation that it will improve my sex life (except perhaps with The Ex).

I tried multiple times to get The Wife interested when we were going to bed and nothing happening then yesterday she comes out to breakfast complaining about getting her period - I checked my blog here and yep, almost exactly one month from the last one so at least it does not appear that she is lying. Actually, Friday night I was so frustrated that I went to bed facing away from her and sort of hoped that she would move over to me and say something but nothing other than goodnight. Thanks to my keeping up with things on here, I know that we have had sex a total of 13 times this year so far which sucks. And in 'adding things up' 5 times with The Ex. It will be interesting to see what my end of year totals are.

This past Thursday afternoon I did have a decent fuck with The Ex. She was enjoying me eating her so much that she held off on cumming so I ended up eating her for almost twice as ling as usual (she apologized but I told her I was fine with it) After her first orgasm, i fucked her to a second and left a nice large load in her since I had not been jerking off for a few days.

We took my oldest daughter, her husband and kids camping this past weekend. We took our large travel trailer and let them use the smaller one and met at the campgrounds. We got there Thursday evening and they arrived late Friday. Overall had a great weekend and did fuck The Wife on Thursday night - it was sort of a basic fuck with little foreplay but overall decent. I had hoped for a repeat at least one more night of the weekend, but have come to realize that more than once every few weeks is unusual - honestly, I was a bit surprised at what did occur. Tried again (a bit) on Monday evening when we got home, but no go. Oh, well.

Again, yesterday morning, The Wife comes out to breakfast complaining that she has her period again (she is supposedly in menopause). Since she id adamantly against period sex, that is all for this week.

We were driving yesterday and discussed that she had been bit by a mosquito in our bedroom which I sarcastically replied that he was getting more than I was. She said well you keep falling asleep. I replied, that 2 nights ago she fell asleep while I was lightly fingering her and then the next night I tried again and since I got no response, instead of pushing, I simply turned over and went to sleep. She was like - well, you fell asleep! Right! Because you showed NO interest! Well, last night, i really was too tired and she was stressed about a new financial report she has due today so I did not bother.
Whatever .....

Got home after working a private event and when we went to bed got the same response as the previous night - nothing doing. For those wondering, I post this here so I have a record of the effort that I make so I do not end up thinking it is all in my mind.