Do you believe in the power of a first kiss? I didn’t when I was younger, but I do now. If that first kiss does make your heart turn a flip then I’d say it is probably not going to work out. There is truly nothing like an amazing, awesome first kiss.

When I was younger and mostly always broke, I always went to the junk yard to find parts to fix my car. I realized that a junk car worth next to nothing ended up parting out for thousands. Are we like that? Take me as a whole I may not be worth much, but if you could part me out all my “good” parts would be worth so much more than I am as a whole. My baggage weighs down my worth, as it does for us all. So if you parted me out my “good” parts would net more than I would. The thing is, we can’t “part” ourselves out. We come as a package deal, the good and the bad. I think the best we can hope for is that our sum is worth more than just our best parts.

Does anyone else have what I call "music nights"? You can't sleep, you start scrolling your playlist and memories wash over you. Some great, some sad, some of loves lost, some of opportunities missed, some of things that were, things that may have been? A haze of your life, a vision through a fog of time that lifts for just a moment to pierce your heart? Then a vision of the many possibilities yet to come? Maybe it's just me, but music is a powerful catalyst for the past, the present, the future.

Can't sleep, watching American Graffiti at 2:30 AM. 42 years ago I was at the drive in with Mary B watching the very same movie. And necking...

We all have thoughts of what constitutes "hot". I can tell you what it is, a state of mind. It's not your body, your face, it is the way you feel about your sexuality. A hot body is always a plus, but a hot sexy attitude is the ultimate. And we all have a different idea of what is a sexy body too! What I think is sexy may not be what others think, and it doesn't matter. If it turns you on and makes you happy, then yep, it is just damn sexy! I am thankful for that, some people think I am and what they think is what matters to me.

A very wise friend of mine once told me a tale that has meant a lot to me over the years. He said gathered a group of people together in a circle and tell each of them to unload all their problems in the middle of the circle. Then you pick out which problems you want to take with you. The only rule is you must leave the circle with the same number of problems you had when you came into the circle. His comment was that most people would look at all of the problems in the pile and end up picking out their own problems to take back.

Several obvious points here. We all have problems, we all have times when we feel sorry for ourselves and think our problems are worst than most. They aren't. And we learn how to deal with our problems. Other problems are other challenges and we may not know how to deal with them. Better the Devil you know. In addition, it teaches us that you never know what burden the other person bears. Some people suffer their burdens in silence, some not. Never assume that stoic people have no problems, do not envy someone who's life appears "ideal". You have no idea what they deal with every day.

The title of the blog "Life is what you make it" is true. You can try to find the good in things, you can focus on the bad. The old saying you are what you eat can be tweaked just a bit, you are as you choose to be. So choose well, limit your internal rainy days and try to put your best self forward. On a lighter note, if you really are what you eat I guess I'm a pussy and that would explain why some people I know are real dicks...

When I was in high school/college, the standard "drop dead creep" line was "Sorry, I can't go out Friday night, I have to wash my hair". I was so stupid I though that was true. And now, 40 years later, same line? Just say drop dead. I get that.

Second topic. If you want something, go for it. And screw having a fall back position. That is only half ass trying if you think fail here, go there. Nothing ventured,nothing gained. Put it out there, win big, lose big, but try big!

Heart felt passion trumps good looks in the long run every time.

The truth will stand when the World is on fire.

Its that time of year. Cooler temps (great to snuggle), football, the color of the leaves, so much more. Fall is a great time! Hope everyone is enjoying this change of season. And for my friends down under, Spring....

What a great, pleasant surprise when a NN friend that you have emailed with a time or two turns out to be a kindred spirit. Even more fun when that discovery is somewhat of an accident, but once discovered, embrassed. I have been just so lucky recently. Fun, fulfilling, makes me do the happy dance!!!

But for now love, lets be real
I never thought I could act this way
And I've got to say that I just don't get it
I don't know where we went wrong
But the feelings gone and I just can't get it back